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Everyone needs some good love and pleasure; and each and every person seeks it in different ways.
\nIn the breeze, I hear a whisper: friends with benefits. Yes! I screamed. Ha! Friends with benefits works best. It has become a notable trend amongst young people and I wanted to try. 

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As my biological system speaks to me through my ovulation period, I picked up my phone and quickly scrolled through my contact list. Who could be up for this, I thought.

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I texted my crush and a few others. Waiting to get a notification on my phone was like forever. And then ding! A friend replied to my flirty messages and so started my journey of “friends with benefits”.

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His reply was surprising but I couldn’t care less why he was interested. I mean, it is about me.

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I have been living on my own, in an apartment. My home became the place where I would get all the pleasures I sought in this world. I would text “My place?” and he would reply with an emoji; and within 5 minutes, he would drive to my end and we would ride each other until we came.

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I can swear dude was all sorts of lit! He just knew my spots exactly and how to touch and caress me. His well-built body was all I had to hang on. Hearing the knock on my door sometimes had my clits responding before I could get to the door. And it’s no long talks… we always get down to business right from the door. His well-shaved face was the call. Rocking my world and giving heads was his speciality and his fingers played my guitar so well.

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We would try different styles and after hours of calling for the ancestors, he and I would climax together in a cacophony of grunts and ‘Oh-Gods’.  You know when the dick is so righteous that you just remain in the pose that brought you to climax for minutes on end after it’s over? There I was, downward facing dog, bent knees in bliss — with a smirk on my face wishing I can have this for the rest of my life.

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That is when friends with benefits arrangement starts to get tricky. 

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I missed my period! What? I was scared as hell for being pregnant… for him. Being on pills, I told myself not to worry but deep down, I was freaking out. And when I checked my diary, I realised I missed some days, especially when this friends with benefits thing started. I guess I was thinking more about my satisfaction than prevention. Of course, the dick was good. Don’t blame me! I needed a way out ASAP and emergency contraceptives came through for me like a superman! 

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“Casual” was what I was looking for, but the connection was strong enough to merit further conversation to see what could be possible. But then again, as beautiful as the connection was, I wasn’t willing to risk sacrificing my well-being – my ability to be sexually free and explore – for sex with him.

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I thought to myself, variety is the spice of life. There has to be another way to satisfy my needs for sex and not just with him. I moved on to a different connection, so I have a variety of pleasure. That helped reducing the emotional bond and brought focus back on my desires, my pleasure. 

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Important tip: Never do friends with benefits without being on a contraceptive method because pregnancy scare is real and missing periods can be a headache. Having an unwanted pregnancy, especially when it’s the last thing on your mind, is not worth it.

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About the author: Mokobi is a sexual and reproductive health activist and feminist. She is a bold advocate for the rights of women.

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